tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13306522.post112106979223482005..comments2023-11-02T01:44:50.012-07:00Comments on Adventures of BruteForce: A Night of PartyingBrute Forcehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10214183612902971524noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13306522.post-1121117934371133582005-07-11T14:38:00.000-07:002005-07-11T14:38:00.000-07:00"Typical of most men, he indicated that he really ..."Typical of most men, he indicated that he really wants to get the wedding over with. It's not exciting for him at all." Yes, I agree crestfallen, that was a pretty broad statement that bruteforce made. Apparently, that particular groom wanted to get the wedding over with but that does not necessarily mean that most men feel that way. Moreover, I think bruteforce knows only a handful of men who have had weddings, so take his general statement with a grain of salt.<BR/><BR/>Me personally, I did not have a wedding so I cannot speculate on how I would have felt. Certainly, a wedding is a once in a lifetime moment, well @ least for about 40% of the population or so, haha. What would help shed light on this whole subject is if married men who have had weddings can comment on the matter. I would venture to say that their responses will differ depending on whether they know their respective wives will view them or not, haha.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13441809988487585009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13306522.post-1121110395118963872005-07-11T12:33:00.000-07:002005-07-11T12:33:00.000-07:00Point taken. However, I am not advocating lavish w...Point taken. However, I am not advocating lavish weddings. The point in contention was whether men want to get the wedding ceremony over and done with, small or large. "Typical of most men, he indicated that he really wants to get the wedding over with. It's not exciting for him at all." I don't agree with this. I do agree you shouldn't blow all sorts of money you don't have on the ceremony, but it's a once in a lifetime moment, so cherish it while it lasts. Yes, wedding preparations are hectic and cause useless arguments, but ultimately it's a celebration of a lifelong union - I can't imagine that most men cannot appreciate the symbolism and gesture of a wedding, and do it just for the sake of the women.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13441809988487585009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13306522.post-1121108868103452902005-07-11T12:07:00.000-07:002005-07-11T12:07:00.000-07:00If a couple already has 20% to put down on a house...If a couple already has 20% to put down on a house or already own a home, a marriage ceremony with its accompanying festivities is wonderful. Why not share the love for one another with family and friends. However, most are not in that same position.<BR/><BR/>To most couples, it is either pay for an exorbitant wedding or put some money down on a house. I’ve seen so many couples elect to have that big wedding and are currently living in an apartment. Again that may be ok for them but I just don’t see the point of spending so much money on one night while that money can be used to greatly improve a couple’s life by allowing for the purchase of a home.<BR/><BR/>For couples in that dilemma, it may be worthwhile to consider a smaller wedding with family and close friends only. I’ve been to several weddings on a budget and those were alright. I’ve been to one country club wedding where the couple invited people they remotely know. I know for a fact that that couple currently resides in an apartment.<BR/><BR/>I’m pretty sure most women will have a different take on the matter above. Problem is weddings are so important to women; as a result, men are more willing to bite the bullet and have that lavish wedding knowing that it makes little financial sense rather than hear about it forever. I know I am glad I chose to go the no wedding route because I finally achieved my dream of buying a house. My advice to men who are in that same predicament, have the wedding otherwise be prepared to hear about for the rest of your life whenever an argument gets heated. I look forward to moving into my new house. You would not have heard me say that had I had a lavish wedding.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13441809988487585009noreply@blogger.com